Why men don't approach women

Again... Chris Thompson made me wonder about men and women playing those stupid games. (Here's the link for his video Why men DON'T approach women ). After watching the video and listening to Chris I got an impression that he really thinks women are frustrating. I know Chris, you have to generalize but your generalization means that girls are mean - in general. At first I couldn't agree. I thought: 'hey we're not like that', but then I think I got your point Chris, or at least I think I did. The thing is you were talking about specific type of girls who I personally associate with those giggling with their friends all the time, putting too much make-up on, wearing a lot of pink and glittering things etc. 

Then I wondered is it true that men do not approach women? Of course they do, but they approach those girls they are attracted to and that depends on what kind of guy you are. Chris, you are one of those good guys, who are barely likely to be attracted to "woo-girls", but there are lots of men who like it.

 In my opinion people have problems with approaching each other in general and that's because it's all about these stupid games they play: women think "I can't approach him because I don't want to him to think I'm desperate or that I want to sleep with him, or that I'm too easy to get.", men may think "I'm not going to approach her, because there a too many friends around her bla bla bla...".

My suggestion is: stop doing that, stop thinking about what he or she thinks. If you like that person go and say hi, doesn’t matter if you're a girl or a guy. Just don't base you're opinion only on person's appearance. Observe them for a while. Try to figure out how they interact with people (as you said Chris), look at their body language, it'll tell you a lot about them and then if you think it is a right person for you just go and say "hi". 

As I said in my comment I don't think I am the exception. I just hate when men say that women are frustrating. Why do you guys think we don't like sex, or we don't like watching football, playing video games? I can assure you there are many beautiful women who love these things, who can drive a car and are independent but still they are feminine, sweet, and attractive. As I said - maybe you have approached the wrong kind of girls.

Few words to some girls:

Get over yourselves. I know you’re pretty but stop thinking that the whole world is intimidated by you beauty. 
Why do you think men have to pay for dinner? Be independent. Are you looking for a date or a free meal? 
Don’t say that it is the guy who has to come up with the date ideas. You can take him somewhere, come up with an interesting idea. 
You’re not the only one who likes to be amused, seduced, and appreciated. It works both ways. He did something for you, do something for him. 
Be romantic! Why do you girls think it’s men’s responsibility to create romantic atmosphere? I don’t get it. 
Just realize that when you’re with somebody it’s not just about you, girl. He’s as important in a relationship as you are.

Few words to people in general:

 Don’t be disrespectful. If someone approaches you and you’re not into that person, be kind and tell them in a gentle way that you’re not interested. We’re all human beings so please let’s respect each other.

How to be less independent - my response to SupDaily06

After watching this video posted by Chris Thompson (here's the link How to be LESS independent )I couldn't stop thinking about it and I questioned myself: ‘Is it necessary to give up part of your independency to have a close relationship with your partner?’, although I totally agree with all that you said about trust Chris, my answer is ‘no, it isn’t’. Trust and independency is not the same thing. Firstly we need to realize:

Why do women want to be independent?

To answer that question we have to look back in our past. From hundreds of years women were under male control. The biggest achievement for a girl was to get married and give her husband a male descendant. Through the centuries an image of women was changing but still they were somehow separated from the public life. If you’re familiar with realist novel and Victorian Age in literature you probably know the term ‘the angel in the house’. Women were supposed to be those angels, guards of family values, pure and innocent. After the long battle, today we can talk about equal rights for men and women, at least theoretically.

We’re happy to be the generation which can observe that sex discrimination is slowly disappearing. There is a generation of women who are independent, who admit that giving birth and taking care of their husbands is not their only ambition. We all still have somewhere in our mind a memory of our mothers’ or grandmothers’(depends on how old you are;)) situation who had political and social rights but still were supposed to be just housewives. Remember the movie ‘Mona Lisa Smile’? That’s what I’m talking about.

So today, when we (women) finally have the opportunity to do what we want to, because it is no longer inappropriate, we have the need to be independent. Independent financially or emotionally and I don’t think it is wrong.

Historical background is I think the main reason. The second is that women are afraid that men may hurt them, but I agree what Chris said about the trust and being “WE” not just “ME”.

But let’s go back to my question:

Is it necessary to give up part of your independency to have a close relationship with your partner?

Well, as I mentioned before I think it’s not necessary. When you’re in a relationship with somebody else you should act as one solid body, but on the other hand you’re still two individuals. Being an independent individual with your own opinion, and feelings is good. You can’t suddenly become your partner, you don’t have to agree with all their decisions. Of course as Chris said: “you’re combining your life with someone else’s life”, but that’s mean you have to learn how to reach a compromise and how to make decisions together, not going too far into that – what do I mean? When I was shopping the other day, I heard two girls talking. One of them wanted to buy a dress and her friend said: ‘You look amazing, you have to buy it’ but the other answered ‘I’m not sure if my boyfriend like that dress’. This is what I meant. You have to be able to make your own decisions even if you’re not sure if your partner approves it or not. It depends what kind of situation it is. He may not like the dress, who cares, buy it if you like it. It’s different when it’s about a big issue including both of you, then think about it and discuss it with your partner. ‘People need people’ as Chris said, but even if from time to time you will agree to do something you’re not really sure about, it doesn’t mean you’re losing you independency. Whenever you start a relationship with somebody you need to give up your selfishness not your independency and those are two completely different things.

These are just my thoughts. The problem is multifacial because we should also discuss why do men need to be independent, or why do some people in general need to have control over others whereas some need to be controlled.