wtorek, 31 lipca 2012

Why men don't approach women


Again... Chris Thompson made me wonder about men and women playing those stupid games. (Here's the link for his video Why men DON'T approach women ). After watching the video and listening to Chris I got an impression that he really thinks women are frustrating. I know Chris, you have to generalize but your generalization means that girls are mean - in general. At first I couldn't agree. I thought: 'hey we're not like that', but then I think I got your point Chris, or at least I think I did. The thing is you were talking about specific type of girls who I personally associate with those giggling with their friends all the time, putting too much make-up on, wearing a lot of pink and glittering things etc. 
Then I wondered is it true that men do not approach women? Of course they do, but they approach those girls they are attracted to and that depends on what kind of guy you are. Chris, you are one of those good guys, who are barely likely to be attracted to "woo-girls", but there are lots of men who like it.
 In my opinion people have problems with approaching each other in general and that's because it's all about these stupid games they play: women think "I can't approach him because I don't want to him to think I'm desperate or that I want to sleep with him, or that I'm too easy to get.", men may think "I'm not going to approach her, because there a too many friends around her bla bla bla...".
My suggestion is: stop doing that, stop thinking about what he or she thinks. If you like that person go and say hi, doesn’t matter if you're a girl or a guy. Just don't base you're opinion only on person's appearance. Observe them for a while. Try to figure out how they interact with people (as you said Chris), look at their body language, it'll tell you a lot about them and then if you think it is a right person for you just go and say "hi". 
As I said in my comment I don't think I am the exception. I just hate when men say that women are frustrating. Why do you guys think we don't like sex, or we don't like watching football, playing video games? I can assure you there are many beautiful women who love these things, who can drive a car and are independent but still they are feminine, sweet, and attractive. As I said - maybe you have approached the wrong kind of girls.

Few words to some girls:
Get over yourselves. I know you’re pretty but stop thinking that the whole world is intimidated by you beauty. 
Why do you think men have to pay for dinner? Be independent. Are you looking for a date or a free meal? 
Don’t say that it is the guy who has to come up with the date ideas. You can take him somewhere, come up with an interesting idea. 
You’re not the only one who likes to be amused, seduced, and appreciated. It works both ways. He did something for you, do something for him. 
Be romantic! Why do you girls think it’s men’s responsibility to create romantic atmosphere? I don’t get it. 
Just realize that when you’re with somebody it’s not just about you, girl. He’s as important in a relationship as you are.
Few words to people in general:
 Don’t be disrespectful. If someone approaches you and you’re not into that person, be kind and tell them in a gentle way that you’re not interested. We’re all human beings so please let’s respect each other.

1 komentarz:

  1. I'm impressed because of the simplicity of thinking. I like it. You should write more ;-)

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